Beginning - Divorce Considerations

Dear Broken Hearted Girl,

When you lie awake at night and contemplate divorce, the main focus of your anxiety will more than likely be pinpointed on your poor relationship with your partner — as it should be.

Unfortunately, you’ll also have all sorts of emotionally environmental factors to consider. Chances are that you’ll not only take into account your own feelings when weighing the decision to divorce, but you’ll actually worry and wonder about the opinions of others.

These are some questions that may wander into your thought process when considering divorce:

1) What will my congregation think?
2) Will my parents consider me a failure, or will they support me?
3) What will the neighbors say?
4) Will I be the subject of gossip among my colleagues?


Although the answers to these questions may seem pertinent to your decision, they really aren’t. Intrinsically, your divorce is just that — your divorce.

If you’re going to contemplate the ramifications of your decision on those around you, consider your children; consider your spouse and consider yourself. In short, your family’s happiness and sustainability should be foremost in your mind when thinking about divorce.

Everyone else is secondary — perhaps even tertiary.


Feel better!
-MJ