When to Date After a BreakUp
When you're dumped, it's easy to wallow in your own misery. It's also easy to decide to jump on the internet and try to find someone else. But, what should you really do?
It's unfair to date someone else immediately, UNLESS your relationship only lasted more than a few months and you weren't in love with the person you dated anyway. If you were involved in a long-term relationship, you may tend to find a "rebound" guy. If you've ever been the "rebound" girl, then you know how painful that can be. So don't do that to a guy - it's unfair to him...and essentially unfair to yourself.
What you can do to gain some self-esteem is go out and accept compliments from men who think you're cute. This will at least affirm that you are able to find someone else when the time is right. It will also help you get to the next step toward getting over your ex.
Start fantasizing on your own about a "mystery" man. When you're able to start fantasizing about someone other than your ex, then you may be ready to try to start dating again.
Just remember that dating a "rebound" guy may set you back a bit when you're trying to get over an ex. If he isn't as great as your ex, you may begin thinking that you'll never find anyone as great.
Take some time after you've been through a break up to evaluate what you want in a new relationship. This should help you on your journey toward dating again and potentially stop you from hurting someone else in the process.
It's unfair to date someone else immediately, UNLESS your relationship only lasted more than a few months and you weren't in love with the person you dated anyway. If you were involved in a long-term relationship, you may tend to find a "rebound" guy. If you've ever been the "rebound" girl, then you know how painful that can be. So don't do that to a guy - it's unfair to him...and essentially unfair to yourself.
What you can do to gain some self-esteem is go out and accept compliments from men who think you're cute. This will at least affirm that you are able to find someone else when the time is right. It will also help you get to the next step toward getting over your ex.
Start fantasizing on your own about a "mystery" man. When you're able to start fantasizing about someone other than your ex, then you may be ready to try to start dating again.
Just remember that dating a "rebound" guy may set you back a bit when you're trying to get over an ex. If he isn't as great as your ex, you may begin thinking that you'll never find anyone as great.
Take some time after you've been through a break up to evaluate what you want in a new relationship. This should help you on your journey toward dating again and potentially stop you from hurting someone else in the process.
posted by MJ @ 1:12 PM
1 Comments:
At 12:03 PM,
maya said…
Sadly I put myself through misery of a rebound guy. He was somebody I had met at a party and had a casual conversation with. I was immediately attracted to him, but he was dating somebody at the time.
About a month later I ran into him again at a bar. This time to find that he was single and had broken up his his girlfriend about a week before. I ended up giving him my number and we went of a few dates.
I thought things were going good, but then found out that he started seeing his ex again. We only dated for about a month, but it was really hurtful and I felt as though I was taken advantage of.
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