Don't just TAKE advice. USE it!!!!

Dear Broken Hearted Girl,

You've been unceremoniously dumped. Your friends, family and forum-buddies have all given you great advice. You know what you have to do to get over him, but you just aren’t doing it. Instead of using advice you've been given and moving ahead, you’re sitting at home, checking out his MySpace page, IM-ing him, Texting Him and calling him.

You tell yourself that you only want to see how he is doing. That you just care about him as a friend and you want to be friends with him. However, deep down, you know that’s not true. You want him to realize that he wants you back. You want him to beg your forgiveness. You want him to make brazen love to you…

And you will allow these RIDICULOUS fantasies to ruin your life forever.

Here’s the deal broken hearted girl:

You don’t want to do the work to get over him. You figure that as long as you keep getting up every day and keep going to work, your emotions will catch up with you and you’ll be fine one day. Over it. Ready for a new love...And while that may be true, going this route may lead to years of solitude. With no new prospects.

Wouldn't you like to start moving forward? Wouldn't you like to get on the road to recover?

Then don't just TAKE your friends' advice. USE it!!

Here’s how:

Equate the healing process to going to the gym. You want to go. You know if you go, working out will potentially give you the body of which you have only dreamed, endorphins to stave off depression, and self confidence.

Unfortunately, knowing this doesn't change a thing. DOING it little-by-little, day-by-day is what will change your body, your attitude and your self-image…yet you still opt for the easy way out…just like you’re doing right now. You’re not DOING the things you know you should do to get over him.

And so you proverbially lie on the couch eating potato chips, when you know you should be on your way to the gym.

Eventually, weeks go by and still you are sitting on the couch shoveling potato chips into your mouth and watching Jerry Springer. You know what you should do to get better, yet instead of losing the 10 pounds you could have lost in a month, you've now gained 10. You will either eventually see or do something that will inspire you to get to the gym, or you will stay on the couch and continue to gain weight forever due to lack of inspiration.

Inspiration is everything.

Do you eventually want to be happy in love? Isn’t that inspiration enough?

Get off your rear Broken Hearted Girl. DO all of the things you know you have to DO so you can move past her. Stop "proverbially" sitting on the couch eating potato chips. Take some action toward healing yourself. Take your friends’ advice…and actually follow through with it.

Stop calling him! Stop allowing him to stop by in the middle of the night! Stop perusing his MySpace page! Stop letting thoughts of him run your life! Get out there and DO something.


MJ