What's the lamest way to break up?
Dear Broken Hearted Girl,
If you're looking for a way to break up, check out these tips from yahoo! personals:
Feel better!
-MJ
What's the lamest way to breakup? Andrea Syrtash gets breakup stories from daters and adds a few horror stories of her own. Get the lowdown on the letdown and tips for doing it right.
Is there a good way to dump someone? Probably not, but there are better ways. According to my very unscientific study with some friends in my living room last month, the worst way to deliver the news is via text message (extra points deducted if you have a lazy thumb and use abbreviations: "I cant c u. over").
Breaking up is hard to do. But it helps to be considerate with the basics like time, place and delivery method so you don't add insult to injury. Here are my five "don'ts" of dumping:
1. Timing Is Everything
How many times have I heard someone explain, "I can't break up now. It's a bad time because... (fill in the blank with any event from a friend's wedding to a family reunion)"?
There will NEVER been a good or comfortable time to end it with someone you care about
There will NEVER been a good or comfortable time to end it with someone you care about, so don't wait for the perfect opportunity. The only exceptions to the timing rule are your date's birthday, a significant holiday like New Year's Eve, or the night before he or she has an important presentation at work.
2. Location, Location, Location!
If possible, pick a neutral and quiet place to end your relationship.
If possible, pick a neutral and quiet place to end your relationship. It may get emotional, so make sure that the dumpee is not driving when you have the conversation and that you're in a place where you both have an opportunity to express yourself without worrying about eyes peering at you. And do not break up at his or her favorite place or restaurant! He or she will never want to go back.
3. The Incredible Disappearing Date
If you've gone out a number of times or have seen each other for a few months, don't rely on your date to get the message on his or her own that it's over.
A close second to disappearing is relaying the message via email or text message.
A close second to disappearing is relaying the message via email or text message. If you're going to do that, make sure to include the fact that you would like to have a conversation following your note. Have the courage to end it in person and allow your ex to respond.
4. Hooking Up Will Screw You Up
I'm all for recycling, but not in this case. No booty calls with the person you've broken up with! You're not only making it harder on your ex who will cling to any glimmer of hope you offer, but you're making it harder on YOURSELF since you'll eventually have to break up all over again when you meet someone new.
5. Mouth Wide Shut
I believe in breakup karma. If you blab to everyone about why you want to end the relationship before you pull the plug, or gossip all over town after you end it, it may come back to haunt you. The dating world is smaller than you think. Unless your ex has done something that you feel you need to alert the masses about (and not just your close friends), keep the details of your relationship private and respect your ex.
If you're looking for a way to break up, check out these tips from yahoo! personals:
Feel better!
-MJ
What's the lamest way to breakup? Andrea Syrtash gets breakup stories from daters and adds a few horror stories of her own. Get the lowdown on the letdown and tips for doing it right.
Is there a good way to dump someone? Probably not, but there are better ways. According to my very unscientific study with some friends in my living room last month, the worst way to deliver the news is via text message (extra points deducted if you have a lazy thumb and use abbreviations: "I cant c u. over").
Breaking up is hard to do. But it helps to be considerate with the basics like time, place and delivery method so you don't add insult to injury. Here are my five "don'ts" of dumping:
1. Timing Is Everything
How many times have I heard someone explain, "I can't break up now. It's a bad time because... (fill in the blank with any event from a friend's wedding to a family reunion)"?
There will NEVER been a good or comfortable time to end it with someone you care about
There will NEVER been a good or comfortable time to end it with someone you care about, so don't wait for the perfect opportunity. The only exceptions to the timing rule are your date's birthday, a significant holiday like New Year's Eve, or the night before he or she has an important presentation at work.
2. Location, Location, Location!
If possible, pick a neutral and quiet place to end your relationship.
If possible, pick a neutral and quiet place to end your relationship. It may get emotional, so make sure that the dumpee is not driving when you have the conversation and that you're in a place where you both have an opportunity to express yourself without worrying about eyes peering at you. And do not break up at his or her favorite place or restaurant! He or she will never want to go back.
3. The Incredible Disappearing Date
If you've gone out a number of times or have seen each other for a few months, don't rely on your date to get the message on his or her own that it's over.
A close second to disappearing is relaying the message via email or text message.
A close second to disappearing is relaying the message via email or text message. If you're going to do that, make sure to include the fact that you would like to have a conversation following your note. Have the courage to end it in person and allow your ex to respond.
4. Hooking Up Will Screw You Up
I'm all for recycling, but not in this case. No booty calls with the person you've broken up with! You're not only making it harder on your ex who will cling to any glimmer of hope you offer, but you're making it harder on YOURSELF since you'll eventually have to break up all over again when you meet someone new.
5. Mouth Wide Shut
I believe in breakup karma. If you blab to everyone about why you want to end the relationship before you pull the plug, or gossip all over town after you end it, it may come back to haunt you. The dating world is smaller than you think. Unless your ex has done something that you feel you need to alert the masses about (and not just your close friends), keep the details of your relationship private and respect your ex.
posted by MJ @ 12:19 PM
2 Comments:
At 8:12 PM,
Anonymous said…
I hope you feel the same when someone dumps you.
At 7:33 AM,
MJ said…
Dear anonymous,
Not sure that you commented on the right article? This article is from yahoo! personals...
This entire blog and website are about break ups and how much it hurts to get dumped. So if you need to talk, you can email me at admin@brokenheartedgirl.com . Or anyone can for that matter. : )
Feel better.
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