Obsessing over an ex-boyfriend

There's a phenomenon that occurs after a relationship
ends - I call it the "double-take factor."

This will happen everyday for weeks. I'm not sure if it happens because we're so used to seeing someone everyday that our mind plays tricks on us, or if it's just our brain reminding us that we're missing someone:

Does this sound like you?

Every time you see the back of a blonde guy's head, you'll turn around and literally gawk to make sure that it's not 'him.'

Every time you see a green truck, you have to speed up and drive recklessly to see the license plate & make sure it's not him. Sometimes you may even follow the guy for miles just to make absolutely sure it's not him.

If you find yourself gawking, speeding carelessly or driving recklessly, I want you to do this exercise:

Keep a small journal with you. Write down every single time you think you see him, write down where you were, the date, and the time. Every time you think you see his car or truck on the road, write down the amount of times you sped up, cut someone off, or followed the vehicle for miles, just so you could see if he was inside.

After awhile, and possibly tens or hundreds of entries, flip through the pages. You'll realize that there are so many green trucks out there, that they all can't be his. You'll realize that there are millions of blonde guys out there, and not one of them were him. And after realizing that, then you'll hopefully determine that chasing & gawking after all the green trucks in the world is a waste of time.

So, be careful & stop driving recklessly. When you're over your ex and you spot one of those hot blonde guys, be sure to tap him on the shoulder, smile widely and give him your card. He may just be 'the one.'

Children and Divorce

Children and Divorce:
"One of the most serious challenges divorced parents face is maintaining the emotional well-being of their children after a divorce. We all want to give our children a better world than the one we came into. No matter who we are, however, the cause and effect of our lives on theirs has unforeseen repercussions. Families that experience traumatic incidents -- such as death, divorce, or failed marriages -- have children who are more susceptible to mirroring the mistakes of their parents.

The break-up of your marriage was very hard on you and your ex, so you can only imagine what trauma your child feels about it. While your children may not have been privy to all the ups and downs that went on between Mom and Dad, they did witness some of the anger and tears. "