Single for the holidays - survival tips!
Dear Broken Hearted Girl,
Let's face it, the holiday season is a blessing and a curse. It can be a joysous time to celebrate religion and family and it can be a time of sadness and despair, thinking of friends and relatives that have passed on and thinking about relationships that have fallen into disrepair. It can also prove a difficult time for those of us that are single.
Now me, I'm not single currently, which is great, but my boyfriend is spending the holidays in another state. I couldn't find a cat sitter for my little guys and my family here in Boston is traveling, so I am going to end up alone. But believe me, I have spent enough holidays either single or alone to deal with the pain.
So, what can you do to survive the season?
1) Volunteer. Do anything - and you don't have to do it ON Thanksgiving or Christmas or over Hannukah, you can do it inbetween those times and still get just as much satisfaction. Volunteering will also give you a good perspective about your life and just how great you have it compared to others.
2) Spend time with your nieces and nephews. That's right! Take off your shoes and sit indian-style on the floor. Color, do puzzles, play rock band, play hide and seek. Remember what the holidays are all about - family and love.
3) Visit your church, temple or mosque. When you're sad, it's a great time to reconnect with the spiritual.
4) Join a community so you can honestly bitch and moan about being single/alone over the holidays. Your friends love you, but sometimes it's easier to be totally honest with strangers whom have never heard your story before. Check out http://mjac.forumco.com for starters.
5) Reconnect with old friends. Send holiday cards or reach out via email and catch up with the people you love most.
Finally, remember that you're not 'really' alone. Although my family lives all around the world, I know that they love me and will be thinking about me on Christmas Day. I may be alone physically, but emotionally, I have all the support in the world.
Feel better!
MJ
Let's face it, the holiday season is a blessing and a curse. It can be a joysous time to celebrate religion and family and it can be a time of sadness and despair, thinking of friends and relatives that have passed on and thinking about relationships that have fallen into disrepair. It can also prove a difficult time for those of us that are single.
Now me, I'm not single currently, which is great, but my boyfriend is spending the holidays in another state. I couldn't find a cat sitter for my little guys and my family here in Boston is traveling, so I am going to end up alone. But believe me, I have spent enough holidays either single or alone to deal with the pain.
So, what can you do to survive the season?
1) Volunteer. Do anything - and you don't have to do it ON Thanksgiving or Christmas or over Hannukah, you can do it inbetween those times and still get just as much satisfaction. Volunteering will also give you a good perspective about your life and just how great you have it compared to others.
2) Spend time with your nieces and nephews. That's right! Take off your shoes and sit indian-style on the floor. Color, do puzzles, play rock band, play hide and seek. Remember what the holidays are all about - family and love.
3) Visit your church, temple or mosque. When you're sad, it's a great time to reconnect with the spiritual.
4) Join a community so you can honestly bitch and moan about being single/alone over the holidays. Your friends love you, but sometimes it's easier to be totally honest with strangers whom have never heard your story before. Check out http://mjac.forumco.com for starters.
5) Reconnect with old friends. Send holiday cards or reach out via email and catch up with the people you love most.
Finally, remember that you're not 'really' alone. Although my family lives all around the world, I know that they love me and will be thinking about me on Christmas Day. I may be alone physically, but emotionally, I have all the support in the world.
Feel better!
MJ
posted by MJ @ 12:33 PM
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