Endings & Beginnings
Dear Broken Hearted Girl,
I have a friend who was hung up on a guy that she had been dating for years. She wanted to move forward, but was afraid to ask him about taking the next step, because she was afraid of the answer.
So instead of asking, she waited. And waited.
One day out of the blue, he finally told her that he just didn't see them getting married. There was no future. She was devastated. She felt like 3 years of her life had just been wasted. And of course, she felt like she would never find anyone that would want to marry her.
I held her hand and helped her get through it as best as I could.
Cut to 2 months later -- I am a really big basketball fan, so I asked her to accompany me to a game. She didn't want to leave the house, but she reluctantly accepted. At half time a guy approached her while I waited in line to get drinks at the bar. By the time I got the drinks, the half was over, so I was doing my best to rush her out of there. We turned to leave and I said, "Did you get his number?" She said, "No. Should I have?" I urged her to scurry back on over there and get it.
She didn't think she should call him. She was afraid of getting hurt. But somehow she mustered up the courage to do it. They started dating. They spent New Year's together, went on lots of trips and started talking about moving in. I had never seen her so happy. She was just beaming!
Cut to 5 months later -- They just had a small marriage ceremony on the beach 2 weeks ago.
It just goes to show you. Good things can happen to good people.
So yeah. Right now things are hard, you feel like you're never going to meet someone again. And even if you do, then you feel like you'll just get hurt again. And you feel like giving up and becoming a nun because, "What's the point in dating if it's never going to work out?"
Go ahead and give yourself time to cry. But realize that eventually you're going to have to poke your head back into the social scene. When your friends invite you to hang out - get up, get dressed and just go!
This story is not only meant to bring you hope, but it's also 100% true. If she hadn't said yes to my basketball invitation (and she doesn't like sports at all), then she wouldn't have met the man of her dreams.
Me? I'm still waiting to find the man of my dreams. So I'm accepting as many invitations as possible this summer. : )
Feel better,
MJ
I have a friend who was hung up on a guy that she had been dating for years. She wanted to move forward, but was afraid to ask him about taking the next step, because she was afraid of the answer.
So instead of asking, she waited. And waited.
One day out of the blue, he finally told her that he just didn't see them getting married. There was no future. She was devastated. She felt like 3 years of her life had just been wasted. And of course, she felt like she would never find anyone that would want to marry her.
I held her hand and helped her get through it as best as I could.
Cut to 2 months later -- I am a really big basketball fan, so I asked her to accompany me to a game. She didn't want to leave the house, but she reluctantly accepted. At half time a guy approached her while I waited in line to get drinks at the bar. By the time I got the drinks, the half was over, so I was doing my best to rush her out of there. We turned to leave and I said, "Did you get his number?" She said, "No. Should I have?" I urged her to scurry back on over there and get it.
She didn't think she should call him. She was afraid of getting hurt. But somehow she mustered up the courage to do it. They started dating. They spent New Year's together, went on lots of trips and started talking about moving in. I had never seen her so happy. She was just beaming!
Cut to 5 months later -- They just had a small marriage ceremony on the beach 2 weeks ago.
It just goes to show you. Good things can happen to good people.
So yeah. Right now things are hard, you feel like you're never going to meet someone again. And even if you do, then you feel like you'll just get hurt again. And you feel like giving up and becoming a nun because, "What's the point in dating if it's never going to work out?"
Go ahead and give yourself time to cry. But realize that eventually you're going to have to poke your head back into the social scene. When your friends invite you to hang out - get up, get dressed and just go!
This story is not only meant to bring you hope, but it's also 100% true. If she hadn't said yes to my basketball invitation (and she doesn't like sports at all), then she wouldn't have met the man of her dreams.
Me? I'm still waiting to find the man of my dreams. So I'm accepting as many invitations as possible this summer. : )
Feel better,
MJ
posted by MJ @ 7:36 AM
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